A Memoir of Letting Go of All I’ve Held Onto

Why is it so hard for you to let go?

You made sure everyone knew of your intent to move on but you forgot to add a disclaimer*.

*Did it ever occur to you that you’re still holding on?

Are you aware that one of the primary characteristics of a Narcissist is the inability to view the world from the perspective of other people?

While you are trapped in your own paradigm, you are also oblivious to the perspective of those around you, and unable to recognize your own faults.

Here are a few other characteristics of Narcissism you may find interesting:
Obvious self-focus in interpersonal exchanges.
A lack of psychological awareness.
Hypersensitivity to insults or imagined insults.
Using other people without considering the cost of doing so.
Denial of remorse.

What have you done except change your relationship status and start a new one?

You haven’t let go of the old one, in fact, you’re financing your new relationship from the person you are trying to move on from.

When the facts are presented how can it be viewed any other way?

You have taken advantage of the kids and held them hostage for child support.

Since when did it become all about the money to you? Where did the entitlement attitude come from? Why do you feel like you’re a victim and I owe you something?

I don’t think you earned it. I don’t believe you are entitled to anything.

You were entitled to keep working — the same entitlement that I have. Is that even an entitlement?

Once you quit your job you no longer get paid and I’m sorry if that bothers you but it was something we all agreed to.

You wanted to leave it all behind. You left and started over, so leave and be at peace; let others be at peace and move on as well. You are like the ghost that refuses to cross over or acknowledge that you have died; you refuse to move on and your presence continues to haunt those around you.

The point of starting over is to let go of everything. There can be no exceptions.

I understand times are tough and you have no money but these are decisions you made. With every decision made there are consequences.

You have gone where I can no longer help you, nor should I — I must move on as well.

You made the final move, you had the last laugh, and you got the last word.

I gave you a chance to return to me. You told me this was something you had to do, so do it then.

You left it all behind and dove into your great unknown. You escaped from your prison only to be trapped in a new one. You did all of the things we could have done together. I became your babysitter and in exchange you gained free time to explore yourself.

You took my investment into our family and crushed it.

I never gave up on you — it was you that gave up on me.

You stood by me and held my hand as we walked through hell and I thank you for that.

We made it out of hell, or so I thought, and you left my side for good.

What was the point of it all? The only reason you stood by me was because you had a deep rooted belief that I would make it through?

In what reality is it righteous or justified for you to make me help you now?

I would have returned the favor and helped you to the top of any mountain. You didn’t give me a chance. Instead of taking the path of least resistance, you took the path of force.

With a madman at the helm of your ship you began scanning the legal seas. Like a pirate — you pillaged, plundered, rifled, and looted all that you could.

When does it stop?

Even if you had good intentions — at the end of the day you are still a pirate. When Robin Hood robs from the rich to give to the poor, he is still a thief.

Soon there will be nothing left to take. Have you considered this?

This peculiar circumstance of this situation is temporary.

No matter how much loot you get or don’t get, whether you think you deserved it or not, there is only so much to take. Eventually there won’t be any left.

You will be alone.

When will you take responsibility for the choices you made? When will you stop blaming others for your choices?

I gave you all that I had to offer

Do you believe in Karma?

I will die someday knowing that I made mistakes. In the end, when it really mattered, I did all that I could to save you.

It was you that let go of the rope.