And Now Our History Has Been Rewritten

If you’re anything like me, you don’t remember things that are no longer important, your brain just dumps them out of your mind. You don’t remember exact dates, you only remember sequences of events.

What I mean by sequences of events, is that you know that things happened before or after other significant events, so that you can line them up in chronological order but you don’t know what the dates or days were for those things.

For example, you know Tim and Bob got married, but before they got married they got engaged, but you don’t know what the dates of that were exactly, you know that maybe it happened in March and maybe you know the year, or maybe you know the approximate time, but you don’t have specific dates, you just know one thing happened before the other.

This seems to be how my memory works, I can only remember in what order things happened and how I felt from those things. Unfortunately, this can be a huge advantage to people in my life that live in or dwell almost continuously in the past.

I will refer to this interesting phenomenon as a “rewrite” from here on out. It’s somewhat similar to a redo but instead of fixing something and redoing it, you just simply rewrite how it happened in your mind instead and try to convince others that that’s how it happened.

A rewrite is a tactic commonly used by those with a guilty conscious or by someone trying to negate responsibility for something they did wrong, basically trying to free themselves of any blame for things they did in their past.

Now, I believe everyone reacts to stuff that happens to them on a live and continuous basis. But what happens when there is a reaction to a piece of history and then another alternative reaction based on a rewrite to a piece of history?

So say for example you’re in a relationship with someone and they did you wrong, and they admitted to doing you wrong, and fessed up and took responsibility for whatever it is they did. You had this conversation with them, you patched things up, you moved on from it, it’s done, the history has been sealed in the vault and you move on from it.

Now let’s pretend 4 months later that very same person begins to do something wrong to you again, and part of their justification for it is that this event 4 months ago didn’t actually happen like it did.

They start to rewrite it and then get mad at you basically twisting and changing what happened to make it seem like it was your fault.

To take the insanity a level further, they get mad at you and tell you that the reason they’re doing wrong now is because of what you did 4 months ago.

You sit there shocked and stunned.

I mean what can you really say to this? It’s unbelievable, how can you take anyone seriously that tries to do this? It’s a complete insult to your intelligence and complete disrespect to you as a person.

This piece of history has already been long forgotten, you have the summary in your head. He/she messed up and they messed up bad, 4 months later, you find that this is trying to be rewritten by that person and they are actually trying to make the case that they were right and you wronged them, and that because of this wronging you did to them, they are now justified in the wrongdoings they are doing to you now.

A lot to swallow isn’t it?

It may seem a bit psychotic because it actually is, but there are people out there like this. They will do and say anything to not take responsibility for the things they did wrong, and they will use anything in their power to justify the things they continue to do wrong to you.

They will trick you into falling in love with them only to set you up to tear you apart down the road. To disintegrate you, to make you eat yourself alive, they thrive off knowing they have destroyed all of you. It gives them a temporary boost to feel better about their shitty lives and the shitty things they’ve done to people. Even the shitty things they are still doing to you.

We call them the soulless.

They prey on victim after victim, they have no identity of their own. They live through others, they live through social media, they live through showing everyone else what they have, they are incapable of being alone with you.

They need to be seen by the public, they need to be seen by social media, they need the approval of others, they only live for the praise others give them. They don’t feel like they exist unless they get attention from many others.

They will eat you up and spit you out and move on without shedding a single tear and without a care in the world.

How can this person be your soulmate when they have no soul?