Why Do Relationships End?

“It’s not you…it’s me.”
“I hate you.”
“I never loved you.”
“This isn’t working for me.”
“You’re too controlling.”

Relationships end, because they must. In the same way you put your family dog down from old-age, relationship end when “it’s time.” You knew this day would come, but ignored it, hoping it wouldn’t.

Everybody wants to live forever, nobody likes death, and relationships are no exception to this rule, they live and die the same as everything else. But sometimes they linger on much longer than they should, like the dead refusing to crossover, they can haunt you everyday.

“You’re an alcoholic.”
“You’re fat.”
“You’re lazy.”
“You’re a loser.”

Who else is better suited to assess our lives than our lover? They get involved in the most intimate details of our lives, even living with us and watching our routines.

“You need to go back to school.”
“You should start exercising.”
“You need a better job.”
“You need to take me on more dates.”
“You need to be more romantic.”

Every “ex” is initially described the same way — some good, but mostly evil. Eventually the evil fades away and you only remember the good. Negative emotions linger under the surface, while positive emotions dominate your memory. No one wants to remember what it feels like to be hurt. We become more forgiving than we should even when a relationship is more bad than good because the good is what we like and what we choose to remember.

The purpose of a relationship is to learn what you can about yourself. You will remain with one person until you learn what they have to teach you or until they learn what they needed from you. Once they have fulfilled their purpose they must continue on with their journey and you must let them go because you must also continue on with yours.

You’ll note your weaknesses and your strengths. You’ll make the improvements you feel like making, even if they are subtle or you make none at all. You’ll have a better idea of what you lacked, but more importantly, you’ll have a better idea of what they lacked. This knowledge, experience, and growing will attract you to a better suited mate down the road.

There are no limits to the number of lessons you need to learn. Sometimes you keep getting the same type of relationship because you’re not learning the lesson that it’s trying to teach you. I think some people are designed to be teachers and to not settle down for very long with anyone, this is okay. It is just your purpose in life, you’ll get exactly what you ask for once you understand what you want.

Short term relationships are nothing more than you learning lessons faster, take your lesson, and do not repeat the mistake by entering a similar relationship. Eventually you’ll find someone else to finish your journey with — or — you’ll just settle for whatever you can find like most people.

You will continue to be a helpless puppet until you become the master of your own strings.