Sometimes, somewhere, in someones life exists a person that can lift them higher than they thought possible. A person, that’s so upbeat and so positive that you find it hard to be down when you’re around them.
They compliment you and tell you you’re pretty or handsome.. They compliment you and tell you you’re intelligent, smart, and funny. They compliment you in private and in public. They compliment you by telling you that they need no one else but you. They compliment you by saying they love you. They make you feel secure, they make you feel stable, they make you feel that no matter what happens, you’ll always have each other.
They add to a relationship and never take away. They have no expectations of you. There are no rules of what you can do, can’t do, or must do; because everything you do is right. They are never sarcastic and always serious with a hint of funny. They take into consideration your feelings and try to compromise when you disagree. They respect you at a level that you feel you need to be respected at and not at how things should be.
They never put you down and they support you through everything. If they are wrong, they admit their fault. If they hurt your feelings they say they are sorry and try harder to avoid that from happening. If they bring you down they pick you back up again.
It is a two way street and has to work both ways. If someone tries harder in a relationship then it’s not going to work. Each partner must get an equal return from the energy they contribute. Sometimes relationships get too comfy and you forget all the things your person does for you. You have to remain appreciative and grateful for what you have and what you can do with each other. You must never focus on what you don’t have or what you need. Never take away always add.
We’re so demanding in relationships these days that we make them virtually impossible. When each expects the other to live in his or her world, to always be there to join in his or her chosen activities, an ego battle inevitably develops. Control battle makes it very difficult to stay with the same person for any length of time.
So we continue searching, never realizing that we may be at fault for our own unhappiness, or rather, we leave a relationship because of unhappiness, thinking we’ll achieve happiness in the next one, and wind up unhappy again.
Many of us are in the same place in life. We are searching. Always searching. We search for meaning in our lives through places we live, people we date, and things that we do. But life just never seems to feel as fulfilling as we think it ought to be. Nobody wants to be put down so we leave. No one wants to feel like they are living an ordinary life. There’s always something more, there has to be. So we spend our days seeking fulfillment.
The experts would have us believe that fulfillment comes from what’s inside. It comes from gratefulness and being grateful for what you already have. What do you believe?
Using some of this content and customizing it as my own. This was a wakeup call and i will give credit for the source.
“Love a man even in his sin, for that love is a likeness of the divine love, and is the summit of love on earth.”
Fyodor Dostoevsky
I chose not to give up. I will not go through that hell again but my love has a home in my heart. I’m not an indian-giver, and there is nothing wrong with that term but it does represent what is the real problem.