There is someone out there perfect for you and you may not even realize it. You’ve probably never had the chance to find them because you are constantly in a relationship — and so are they.
Life tends to keep you apart until that opportune moment, will you be ready for it?
Most people aren’t and they let it pass them by, not just once, but time and time again. When two people are attracted to each other the universe does everything in its power to bring them together.
This phenomenon is naturally occurring but some people are so resistant to their calling that they blow their chances.
Instead of following their heart, they follow their mind and society instead. They keep themselves occupied, going from one relationship to the next without any pause — taking any person that can fulfill as many needs as possible at the time.
“You’ll do” is really their motto.
When the person designated as your “happily ever after” becomes available, there’s nothing you can do because you’re in a relationship. When you’re available, there’s nothing you can do because they are in a relationship.
Even if you caught on to this cycle, most people don’t have the guts to call off their current relationship. They stick with it because their mind has fucked them over and society is against them. In the end it’s just another passionate relationship to mark in the books that was full of intense emotion and sexual attraction.
What you are ultimately seeking is a compassionate relationship characterized by mutual respect, attachment, affection, and trust — it is rare for passionate love to develop into compassionate love. Thus life goes on with each passionate relationship ending only to make room for a new one.
Your perfect someone could be anyone, open your eyes. There is a person in your life right now that you randomly think about, someone that you have feelings for, or are attracted to.
They might be your best friend, somebody else’s girlfriend, maybe they are married, or there is some other reason why you deny universal truth.
Do not be misled by sexual attraction and intense emotion, these never last, and are a sign of passionate love. Most people think if they do not have these feelings for someone else then they can’t be their “happily ever after”, but this is one of the major reasons why most people don’t end up “happily ever after”.
Do you have someone in mind? Maybe they’ve comforted you through one of your breakups. Maybe they’ve been really thoughtful and sent you random gifts. Perhaps they have given you a drawing, a book, a note, or some other subtle hint that you’ve missed.
Can’t think of anyone? I’ll give you a hint — you probably call them a friend.
A parallel relationship is when two people are destined to be together but may never cross each others path. If they do cross paths, it’s in a perpendicular manner (straight down and through) and then they run parallel again.
Every now and then that special person in your life will veer right across your path but you won’t be available because you’ve already jumped into the next relationship. When you’re available and veer across their path, they’re in a relationship, and the cycle continues. Eventually the cycles get longer and longer and your chances of being with your “perfect someone” become slimmer and slimmer. No one can defy time.
The proof for such a theory can be found in divorce rates.
Over 40% of people marry the wrong person in their first marriage. By their second marriage over 60%, and by their third marriage the number is a whopping 73% — almost 3 out of 4 people picking the wrong person to marry.
They start to become so desperate after the first divorce that when passionate love runs out, they bail — they want to commit but just can’t seem to find the right person.
The average length of a marriage that ends in divorce is 8 years and people wait an average of three years to remarry, if at all.
The age category of 18-29 makes up over 80% of the divorces for woman and over 72% for men.
My advice to you — wait.
If there is someone on your mind or someone you have feelings for that you want to be with, the chances are actually really high that they’ll be available again before the age of 30, especially if they’re already divorced.
Be careful not to fall too far down the rabbit hole with someone that isn’t perfect for you — the last thing you want to do in life is die with regrets.
I actually have someone that I have strong feelings for, and the same applies to them towards me. In fact our lives are so parallel to each other in that we have almost the same traits of similar life experiences. Some situations are still keeping us apart, and also our differences in cultural upbringing. It almost feels like being with him will be a risk, but also a one worth taking for sure. You’re right though, I need to wait and pray too. Thanks for the article.
I knew my first and only boyfriend since the 6 th grade.We were teased in school together so never had the courage to talk, both leaving school in the 10 th grade. Then 2 times we tried to break the communication barrier – but were rejected by the other. Then he came back to live in my city, we confessed our love to each other and had our first mutual relationship that lasted for 2 years. Then he broke up with me over something trivial and he sent me away from his life. He was going through a rough time and he didn’t want me nearby. I kept away and worked on me and became a whole person. Now after 2 years, he has come to apologise for behaving and there seems like there is a possibility for us, again. There is a cultural difference in upbringing for us too. That is the original complication. But just the kind of history we have tumultuous, fairy tail like, it seems like we are meant to be, and now i’m just waiting for this next week to figure out if we have a chance. i have moved away professionally so the road forward is not looking smooth still. there is a lot of parallelism between our lifes too. My gut says we belong together. I want to ask him what he feels.
Waiting for that special someone is actually the answer.
Great information. Thank you very much.
Ingrain this in your memories. Never, ever take that person for granted including what you might say in the heat of a moment or a tragic event. The happily ever after person is obvious to both of you and in time you will be together…maybe not in this life. The reunion will be sweet even though you may not remember it is a “reunion”. The feeling will be familiar such that it will seem like this is my forever love, a unique kind of euphoria, not like “falling in love”. It can be tested by the universe if you give the bond too much credence as though it is more powerful than your own appreciation for life on its own. Don’t open the door to “it’s you and me against the world” or “I love you more than life itself”. Those sentiments invite testing. Work to build each other up to the simplicity of finding the true self within, independent of your bond. This makes you both synchronistic assets of Human purpose (God’s purpose), not just 2 lucky folks lost in one another with the pitfalls that come along to convince you otherwise.