This song has an obvious meaning and not so obvious meaning.
Miley Cyrus did not write this song, it was written by Stephen Richard Moccio. Whether or not she sang it to send a message to someone is something only she knows. I have read everything about it being for her dad, Liam, or Nick; but it really doesn’t matter.
The lyrics and music are brilliantly composed. The way she sings allows you to feel the emotion behind it.
The only reason I care about where this song originated is to give it some history. I always pull my own meanings from songs based on my own emotional experiences. Each song means something specific to me and I believe that the point of music is to let it speak to you.
I will dive into what the song should literally mean — allowing you to discover deeper meanings. Once you make a connection to a song, it can transport you back in time to relive those moments.
We clawed, we chained, our hearts in vain
We jumped, never asking why
We kissed, I fell under your spell
A love no one could deny
The first time I read these lyrics they seemed backward and confusing. Clawing and chaining are not about falling into love but quite the opposite.
When you fall under a spell it can either mean you’ve become obsessed with another person or have falling for them — if there is a difference between the two. The confusing part of the lyrics is that “we” kissed, and “I” fell, which signals to me a one sided relationship.
This leads me to believe she is not describing the infatuation state of a relationship but rather her feelings of a one sided relationship.
To claw something results in damage and to chain something results in restriction, in vain — it was a useless effort.
What could this possibly mean?
She wouldn’t have chained to hold herself back because it doesn’t go with the other lyrics. So it could mean she stuck or restricted herself to this relationship to work while “clawing at her heart” or causing herself pain because she wasn’t getting what she wanted.
The other verses of the song confirm this belief that we are not hearing a two sided love ballad but rather her effort and pain.
Don’t you ever say I just walked away
I will always want you
I can’t live a lie, running for my life
I will always want you
This part to me signals her obsession with this person. She feels they could have had something real. If the other person ever realizes that, she wants them to know that she didn’t walk away or quit. We are left with a hint of when this person figures it out, she may welcome them back.
I came in like a wrecking ball
I never hit so hard in love
All I wanted was to break your walls
All you ever did was wreck me
Yeah, you, you wreck me
She didn’t hold back her feelings. She tried to get through to this person but they resisted her attempts and in the end she was the one left hurt.
I put you high up in the sky
And now, you’re not coming down
It slowly turned, you let me burn
And now, we’re ashes on the ground
This part hints at the possibility of a fling they had or a good run. She put him up on a pedestal meaning she thought the world of him and lifted him up.
“You’re not coming down” is a brilliant way to illustrate a hot air balloon rising which symbolizes someone getting a big head from their ego and floating away. The other person slowly drifted away from them without looking back.
She realized this person wasn’t reciprocating these feelings.
“You let me burn is a reference” to how easily he could have helped her but chose to just walk away. Ashes on the ground can refer to how she feels either nothing or was treated like nothing — insignificant.
I never meant to start a war
I just wanted you to let me in
And instead of using force
I guess I should’ve let you win
This is the realization that she went too far and exhausted or overwhelmed the other person. This is her way of offering an apology or rather admitting to her responsibility for her mistakes.
War references how bad things got before the final split. The other person may have wanted their space and she was too needy. Instead of taking their time together she came off too strong.
I came in like a wrecking ball
Yeah, I just closed my eyes and swung
Left me crashing in a blazing fall
All you ever did was wreck me
Yeah, you, you wreck me
Yeah, you, you wreck me
A variation of another verse. It still symbolizing that she came full blast into this but did so without understanding the consequences. “Crashing like a blazing fall” is a reference to a meteor hitting impacting the earth — it amplifies how much damage it caused.
Lyrical Conclusion
Miley Cyrus just went through a one sided relationship where she was madly in love with the other person but they didn’t feel the same way. She became so vulnerable that when all was said and done she was left in pieces. She hopes that someday this person realizes the pain they caused and that she still has feelings for them.
Lyrical Alternatives
Pick your own, this reminds me of several relationships I went through where no matter what I did, the other person just wasn’t into it. The mistake is by thinking you can change how someone else feels by extra effort and force — doesn’t work that way. Now that she sang this song, the other person is surely frightened of her obsession.
Keep in mind that she did not write this song and her reasons for singing it could have nothing to do with any of her relationships but just something she could relate to or understand.
Great analysis!
her song? if its really “her song”… because lately a lot of performance actors have been acting more of a MEDIANS between this world and…
anyway this song is the fallen star’s perspective of what happened in the Great War in Heaven…. how liezifaire fell crashing-in like a bolt of lightning, “blazzing”, and he’s right, he should have just apologized and surrendered, but his pride has taken over and ruined him which goes well with: “let You win”.
No you are wrong sir.The video is about her loving AND about california for instance… “She came in like a wrecking ball” She came into california only to find that they diddnt like her the way she was so they changed her this song is not only about love but about the past and what shes gone through
That’s a great perspective on it Angel.
this is nice song i really like
Well, you and the person that wrote this where both not wrong, the perspective can be however you see!
I love this song. This song Describe on how I feel about a guy I still love
yes you r are right this song s awesome i felt good when i heared this song first time
hae kat
I agree
Ilove miley <3 no matter what
The original description given is correct for the most part…. she’s just not talking about a guy
I think no matter what this song is about, a lot of people can relate to what this song is saying.
i feel as though this song is more about her challenges through her fame, the description of the analysis is correct, just not really pertaining to a guy. Fame got to her head and destroyed who she truly was. I also felt like its apologizing for her decline as a person.
I like this ^ analysis best. She’s gone all crazy for this song and video but she’s apologising for her decline and as if she’s going to try and no be so crackers. No matter what Miley did doesn’t change who she is she was never “Hannah Montana” that was just a character she played so people comparing Miley to Hannah is just wrong.
I just find the song totally depressing, and don’t get what the obsession with her is!
Brilliant !
Really…mlley..it’s a heart touching song
Ths song is very clear no need for explanation ilove this song its hard to hint inlove alone
yea no need to explanation
Its about people accepting her for who she is and that she didnt nean to cause such a stir in the news. And how everyones hate wrecked her. And of course how she still wants her fans 🙂
Just amazing.. really deep ! i can actually feel the pain in the song every time i hear it.
The song real reminded me my past life,…
This song is not about Hollywood and How it changed her. She’s talking about a guy. I can relate to these lyrics cause I’m going through this right now. Im was trying and trying to make this guy see that I was a good girl for him and that I really really liked him. I gave him sspace but he still just wasn’t into it. So me of course I could tell that he didn’t really want me because he started to drift away and when I confronted him I looked like the crazy one. But he was the one who made me feel on top of the world only to later make me feel on the ground like ashes.
you are right sarah life is not a game as love is not a game and but he was not a good person for you he broke your heart
Yeah. Same for me. 🙁 It’s a bad feeling.
She is trying to xplain her feelings for d person bt d person is thinking other wise.after she brought up d person,now person using d chance to hurt her,thts abt d song.
Well, what is somewhat strange is that I wrote a song called “Wrecking Ball” in 2012, but changed it (and the lyrics) to “Demolisha Love” because Springsteen was coming out with an album called “Wrecking Ball.” The song is on my You tube channel “daneleemusic”, and I say strange because the Miley Cyrus song very closely resembles the lyrics in my song. I have heard that she is credited with the first song where a wrecking ball was used to explain the beginning rather than the ending of a relationship. Sorry, but I have been blazing that trail for over six years now, and “Demolisha Love” made the stated reference back in August of 2012. Cyrus came out with her song in Sep 2013.
I meant to say “May” of 2012, when I released my song.
Miley wrote this song because of Liam. She was heart-broken because he left her!! You guys are all wrong!!! And the Wreaking Ball part was because it was supposed to stand for her heart being broken.
@jenni. Except for the fact that Miley Cyrus did not actually write the song. It was written by 5 other people, mostly from Canada, and was sold to her.
This song is not about Hollywood and How it changed her. She’s talking about a guy. I can relate to these lyrics cause I’m going through this right now. Im was trying and trying to make this guy see that I was a good girl for him and that I really really liked him. I gave him sspace but he still just wasn’t into it. So me of course I could tell that he didn’t really want me because he started to drift away and when I confronted him I looked like the crazy one. But he was the one who made me feel on top of the world only to later make me feel on the ground like ashes.
This song is one of my favourite song…love u Miley :*
Illuminati confirmed.
i think wrecking ball is about a guy she met and he dumped him, and she is talking about the challenge of him being gone
It could also be about falling in love with someone that has Narcissistic Personality Disorder or is a Sociopath.
I love this song
I love wreaking ball and that is the best summary of the song I ever read!!!!!!!!!!!
Yeah des song is about Liam..da gal was so broken hearted! Bo questions asked.
This was a great perspective and I think ur right because the song actually sounds like it
I like this song
Bad song
Such a shame this song even exists.
the moment i first heard her song lyrics :
i came to a fair conclusion: taking into an account thAt she went around pierced and displaing pyramids & sixes with her fingers/hands…
her song if its really “her song”… cuz lately alot of performance actors been acting more of a MIDEANS between this world and… anyway this song is the fallen star’s perspective on what happened in the Great War in Heaven…. how liezifaire fell crushing in like bolt of lightning, blazzing, and he’s wright, he should have just appolegized-“let You win”… notice the Capital designation in you..
I disagree… ok i dont like miley or this song, but i see a guy with issues who she (the writer, this could be gender reversal) tried to change, not hear and comfort but rock the foundations and shake him into her (their) version of life
“Came in like a wrecking ball/ all you ever did was wreck me” signals his resistence, and her understanding that this was a wrong move on her part, and she regrets her actions because she meant well but made the mistakes of changing someone yo suit, not accepting who they are and working with that.
Any song is open to interpretation, i may be right or wrong. But while i didnt like the version portrayed, i rethought things and considered a song of regret – “dont you say i just walked away i will always wany you” sounds regretful.
Whatever the message or story conveyed, i sort of get the song in my understanding (ive been the guy, an ex tried to break my walls rather than understand – though i gave indication what i wanted from her), and i hear a lament rather than blame of him – she sees her mistake and may learn from it
Its about butt eating
Its all butt eating
Great analysis. Nice article.